Remembering Rebbetzin Shelia Feinstein
Thank you for including the tribute to Rebbetzin Shelia Feinstein, a”h, in last month’s magazine. Rebbetzin Feinstein lived a life of purpose. Whether as a loving wife, mother, principal, teacher, or friend, the Rebbetzin thought and acted with deliberate sensitivity and attention to, as well as clarity with, everything she said and did. Her instinct to help was remarkable. Her concern for fellow Jews, whether she knew them personally or not, was inspiring. To say she was a truly special person would be a gross understatement. She had tremendous respect and love for every Jew. She will be sorely missed. We join in mourning, along with the rosh yeshiva, their children, and the extended Feinstein family.
One of my favorite monthly columns in your publication is Positive Parenting. Last month’s subject about blocking out negative thoughts was an article after my own heart. I am a huge believer in the power of positive thinking and I honestly believe it has to do with the ability to have proper perspective. With my grandparents being holocaust survivors, we’ve already heard of the worst possible experience one can go through, so my entire life growing up, whenever I would encounter a hardship or a struggle, I would always think back to my grandfather in the forest running for his life or searching for food. No parents, no home, no food – and then I can clearly see that whatever I’m going through doesn’t seem so bad. We all have to remember that, most of the time, whatever little stresses we experience could always be a lot worse. Thank you for reminding us of this gift – positive thinking, which, by the way, is always a choice.
As a parent of five elementary school children, I really enjoyed reading last month’s tips regarding preparing our children for the new school year (New Beginnings). I agree wholeheartedly with the points and suggestions in the article, but I would like to add one more tip for your readers. I believe it is extremely important to be a full partner with your child’s teacher.
If your child comes home with a complaint about the teacher, you can be empathetic, yet try to show the teacher’s side of things, too. If you speak of your child’s teacher with respect, your child will adopt a respectful attitude, too. Don’t automatically take your child’s side when there is a conflict between teacher and student. Investigate the best you can and remain respectful of the teacher and your child as you try to develop a balanced view of what happened. Children need to have authority figures they can respect. They need to look up to their teachers. Parents can help make it so.
I usually agree with Jido’s advice – but last month I think Jido erred by not including in his reply about how wrong it is to regift presents. Regifting is rude, unthoughtful, and deceitful. Regifting is taking something someone probably put a lot of thought and feelings into to give to you, and unthoughtfully giving it to someone who might not even want it. Think about that person. The person who, if they find out you regifted their present, might be crushed. Also, if the person you give it to finds out it’s a regifted gift, think how they will feel. They will have believed you put a lot of thought into their gift, only to realize it was meaningless and just something you didn’t want anymore.
I’m probably sharing the thoughts of most of your readers by thanking the Flatbush Shomrim members for their tireless work they do for our community – all year long. Their assistance in crime prevention and building stronger relations with the police allows all of us to sleep peacefully at night. The Flatbush Shomrim Activities column should be a reminder to all of us on the importance of having this chashuv neighborhood watch group in our community. Keep up the great work!